Every Girl: Am I “Ms. Right”, For My “Mr. Right”?
Have you ever wondered what your future husband is doing right this moment? What his plans are for the weekend, or how the two of you will meet? Most likely the majority of you will answer, “Yes!” to each of these questions.
The idea of “Mr. Right” weighs heavier on my mind the older I get. Though I am not desperate, I do find myself wondering about, even searching for at times, my future husband. I like to believe that my future husband is wondering about, and searching for me, too! This very thought pushes me to begin developing now, the kind of woman I want my husband to find down the road.
Proverbs 31, a passage we know so well, describes the ultimate wife and mother—Ms. Right. But before we read of her description, we read this short, yet profound question, “Who can find a virtuous but capable wife?” Girls, our future husband longs to find us, but he longs to find us as virtuous and capable women! Of course, we don’t want to let our Mr. Right down! So let’s discover together, what being “virtuous” and “capable” truly mean.
To be “virtuous”, we must be morally excellent. Through out this inspiring chapter we see many examples of moral excellence.
Ms. Right is a woman who can be trusted (vs 11). Good, not evil, follows her (vs 12). She tends to the poor and needy (vs 20). She is full of wisdom, and chooses her words carefully (vs 26). She appropriately fears the Lord (vs 30).
As she lives this virtuous life, she proves capable of many things.
Ms. Right is capable of working hard in the home (vs 13-15). She is capable of working energetically and making wise decisions financially (vs 16-18). She is capable of up-keeping her home, as well as dressing her husband and children (vs 21-22). She is capable of courageously facing the future, including challenges (vs 25). She is capable of earning the respect and admiration of her family (vs 28).
When I read these incredible descriptions of how a wife and mother ought to live her life, I very quickly discover how unprepared I am to be Ms. Right for my Mr. Right. Do you feel this way too?
We are told in Luke 9:11 that if we ask of God, He will give. I want to challenge each of you, and myself, to begin praying that God will mold you into the virtuous and capable woman our future husbands are long to find.
As you begin praying for this transformation, however, be prepared for God to answer. You see, sometimes, when we ask God to develop us into a stronger, kinder, wiser, braver, more trust worthy person, God allows us to face trials and temptations that will give us the opportunity to grow and develop such characteristics. In other words, how we react to trials, how we respond to temptations, and how we deal with hardships now, directly impacts what kind of woman our future husband will find later.
As you find yourselves molding into Ms. Right, ask yourselves the following questions:
“Do my friends and family members trust me?”
“Do I take responsibilities such as homework or chores seriously?”
“Do I enjoy learning and developing wisdom?”
“Am I careful with my words?”
“Do I think before I speak?”
“How do I handle challenges?”
“Do I fear, or embrace, the future?”
“Do I enjoy taking care of other people?”
“Am I evolved in community, school, or church activities?”
“Do I live as closely to God’s word as I can?”
These are just a few modern day questions we can ask ourselves as we strive to grow into a virtuous and capable woman not only for our future husbands, but for our God, also.
God Himself tells us at the end of this chapter that such women will be “praised” and will receive a “reward” (vs 30-31).
Will your Mr. Right find his Ms. Right in you?
By Jennifer Savage
Originally printed in the spring 2012 issue V5N2