Advice on Marriage

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series “Older Women…train the younger women to love their husbands and children” Titus 2:3-4)

Marry a Christian.

~ Linda Keene

Wherever you are, whoever you’re with or wherever you go—remember who you are first:  a child of  The King.

~ Barbara Ainsworth

Many say marriage should be 50-50 but I don’t believe that. Marriage should be 100-100.  Marriage is wonderful if you are both giving it your all.”

~ Connie Ball

No matter what, ALWAYS be faithful.

~ Mildred Achimon
My mother always told me that marriage was for a lifetime and a long time and I could never come back home. I always remembered those words.

~ Jane Ruyle

Others in the Series:

Anger

Losing a job

Hurting spiritually

New Brides

Encourage and Uplift

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series “Older Women…train the younger women to love their husbands and children” Titus 2:3-4)

Give him special notes or cards when he does well.  Small things can really make a big difference.  It can even be as small as picking up his socks without being asked to.

~Linda Keene

The best way to encourage and uplift your husband is to not take him for granted.  Be quick to praise him when he does well and be sure to say thank you.

~Barbara Ainsworth

Show him you appreciate him all the time.  For the way he dresses, for making a living, for being considerate, or any other way you can.  Let him know that you are proud to be seen with him and that you enjoy being with him.

~ Connie Ball

Others in the Series:

Anger

Losing a job

Hurting spiritually

New Brides

Best Advice

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series “Older Women…train the younger women to love their husbands and children” Titus 2:3-4)

Love him, pray for him and be patient.  Pray for yourself and that the Lord will help you help him.

~ Connie Ball

Be the best example you can be:  serve him, put him first, go out of your way to leave notes of love in unexpected places but never give into missing church services.

~ Linda Keene

Pray, pray, pray.  Stand ready to comfort and help him. Realize that it must be his decision. You can not make it for him.

~ Barbara Ainsworth

Always stand by his side and give him support.

~ Jane Ruyle

Do all that you can to encourage him and be an example to him.

~ Mildred Achimon

Others in the Series:

Anger

Losing a job

Encourage and uplift

New Brides

Best Advice

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series )

Discuss options you have for withstanding the transition. Be careful to not put him down.

~  Mildred Achimon

Do not nag him but be patient and encourage him in looking for another job.

~ Jane Ruyle

Cut back, be encouraging, be positive and let him know that he is still your lover. Ask his opinions and follow his advice.

~ Linda Keene

Do everything you can to reinforce his self-esteem. He will probably be beating himself up. If you have a job, do not rub it in that you are bringing in a paycheck. Save everything you can and go to the Lord for help.

~ Connie Ball

Others in the Series:

Anger

Encourage and uplift

Hurting Spiritually

New Brides

Best Advice

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series )

Remember that you are not only marrying your husband, you are also marrying his family. Strive to love them.

~ Barbara Ainsworth

Compile a list of items dealing with household responsibilities and have your husband rank and assign them like dusting, making the bed, bathing the children, and mowing the lawn.  Which tasks are his, yours, or both?  Which ones are most important?  Which ones are least important?

~ Linda Keene

Your husband needs a  help-meet—not a CEO.  Always love and respect him. Put God first, your husband second and yourself third.

~ Connie Ball

Always strive to be an example to your husband and be helpful. Remember Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

~ Mildred Achimon

Others in the Series:

Anger

Losing a job

Hurting spiritually

Encourage and uplift

Best Advice

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue

(Words of Advice for a Christian Wife – An “In Your Own Words” Series )

An important thing to remember is that whatever is causing you anger will pass. Stay calm, talk about your problems together and pray
together.

~ Linda Keene

Try to not let pride get in the way of working things out. Hold your temper and think before you speak.  Words that are spoken in outbursts or anger are of little value.

~ Barbara Ainsworth

Pray for your husband and  yourself. It is difficult to remain angry and talk to God at the same time. God is the one who can ultimately help you resolve problems.

~ Connie Ball

Remember to be slow to anger. Try to calm down and give yourself time to think things through before sitting down to talk about it.

~ Mildred Achimon

Sometimes it is easier to avoid saying things in anger if you get away for a while. Take a walk by yourself to clear your head and think things through or get busy doing something to take your mind off it for a while.

~ Jane Ruyle

Others in the Series:

Encourage and Uplift

Hurting spiritually

New Brides

Best Advice

Losing a Job

Originally printed in the Summer 2009 issue